Monthly Archives: October 2011

Pick Me, Pick Me!

If you haven’t heard about my journey to be a surrogate, please go here first.

Today’s Skype session went very well. The call started late as the coordinator, “Kate,” had a last-minute schedule “snafu” that got in the way, but once we all got to talking it went smoothly.

I’m glad I’d seen pictures of “the boys” before because their webcam wasn’t the most up-to-date and their faces were quite pixelated. The call was mostly business, talking about what appointments they’d be present for, how many babies they wanted out of this pregnancy (singleton, twins, triplets, etc.), how much or little they wanted to communicate with me, what our relationship expectations are, etc. We talked about the amount of time it would take to go from where we are now to pregnancy and about our personal and family backgrounds.

“The boys” are planning a trip out here next month (eek!!) so we can meet face-to-face, though it’s unlikely they’d be in the U.S. later for the transfer of the embryo; while it’s a very?important step in surrogacy, it’s also one of the most boring parts.

I am very pleased with how the call went; “the boys” seem very nice and very excited to start a family. And they got to “meet” “Em” as she snuck by me to get something from across the room; she even showed them the mask for her Halloween costume!

The main next step is for them to confirm with the coordinator that they do in fact want to have me as their surrogate. And that confirmation should come via email from them to the coordinator by end-of-day tomorrow!


As a side note, their accents are gorgeous!!


To read all my posts on surrogacy, please visit this page.

Thoughts – October 30, 2011

Matthew 6:25-29

Do you take the path of least resistance? Do you make a detour as soon as something difficult falls in your way?

Do you look at your feet when you walk, unaware of your surroundings and not looking ahead to prepare for what is coming? Do you find yourself on a different road than you anticipated because you didn’t see the sign telling you which fork to take?

Do you pull strange growth out of your path because it doesn’t look like it belongs? Do you immediately think something new and foreign is a weed that needs to be taken away before it can take hold and grow bigger and stronger?

Do you feel like you need to grow on your own, that you don’t need help, that you need to be “independent?” Do you feel like you need to plant yourself away from others to be your own person?

Do you see the things around you as inhibiting, overpowering, daunting? Do you see the older growth as outdated and in the way?

Do you feel like every choice is between good and bad? Do you feel guilt over the choices you make for yourself and your personal life and needs?

Do you forget that in death comes lessons, strength, growth? Do you step over the old and gone, passing by without remembering what good was done in the past life and what good is still being done in death.

Do you see the outsides of others and take what yousee as the whole truth? Do you forget to think that inside there could be a storm, a churning? Do you fault others for their collapse when no one, not even that person, saw it coming?

Do you not realize that you are someone’s strength? That someone listens to your every word, watches your every move and models your every decision? Do you not know that you are a role model for someone and also their lifeline?

The “Pill”s

If you haven’t heard about my goal to be a surrogate, please go here first.

Short and not-so-sweet post: these damn pills are making me sick! I was prescribed birth control pills by the fertility clinic to help get my “cycle” in sync with the potential egg donor. Flash back 10 years and it’s college all over again: 2-minute warning that I gotta hurl about 10 hours after taking the pill. Doesn’t matter if I eat before, with, or after the pill, I’m gonna puke it back up. Back then I figured it wasn’t doing me any good (i.e. protecting me from pregnancy) if I was puking it back up, so I got on Depo instead.

Earlier this year I was put on birth control pills to start my period when it hadn’t started a few months after stopping the Depo. Those didn’t make me sick and I just figured I’d grown out of that.

Guess not. Day 3 of the pills and it’s the 2nd night I’ve thrown up after dinner. I thought maybe I’d just had some bad salad yesterday, but I had completely different meals today and I’m hovering over the toilet! I guess it could be just a stomach bug, but it’s only happening at night and at approximately 9 hours after taking the pill; just like last time.

I’m gonna call the fertility folks tomorrow and see if I can get a lower dose of whatever I’m on.



To read all my posts on surrogacy, please visit this page.