I love that OKCupid’s multiple choice answers allow for an explanation.
“Imagine you are in a relationship that makes you very happy. Suddenly, your partner decides to go work on the other side of the planet for a humanitarian organization for the next twelve months. Which would be closest your reaction?”
Youe answer choices (you only get to pick one):
“- I’d go too, because the relationship is important.
– I’d go, because humanitarian work is important.
– I’d stay, and wait for their return.
– I’d end the relationship.”
“Imagine you are in a relationship that makes you very happy. Suddenly, your partner makes a decision that affects the both of you without consulting with you first.
I don’t care if you’re building schools or flying to the moon. If you care AT ALL about the other person, you include them in a discussion prior to making important life changes.”
Which of their answers do you think I chose?
Which one would you choose?