Avoiding TMI: social grace
Lines are blurred in social media. Over-sharing is almost accepted. Reality tv has morphed into reality connectivity. Many share who they are, but how much of what we “see”
(read) is what the sharer wants us to see and not who they really are? How many of us would be comfortable with everyone seeing us for ALL of who we are? How would our lives change if we knew we were being watched by others, if we were the example for others? Parents often think about this, knowing that their children will do as they do, not as they say. Who are we really? What parts of ourselves do we hide from others? Why? Are we ashamed? Ashamed because we are human, make mistakes, aren’t as cool and calm on the inside as we would like others to believe? But if we think about the people we admire, is it because they are perfect? Or because we can relate to them? When we share our imperfections with others, others are more likely to share their imperfections with us. Sharing embarrassing or “real” truths about ourselves shows others that we are being honest with them, with ourselves. It does not lower our value as a person, rather it raises our value and increases our credibility. Being open and honest about who we are invites others to be open and honest about who they are. Honesty is welcome, welcoming and inviting. If we invite others to know more about ourselves, how many invitations will we receive?